I often have bad days where I constantly beat myself up and have my head filled with negative thoughts. I find myself questioning everything like if all the work I put in will mean anything in the end, I stop being grateful for things I used to cherish, and I even think about giving up on my dreams. That's how bad negative thoughts can get if you let it. Whenever I’m having a bad day and go in public, I see everyone walking and talking and I realize everyone has their own lives and no one truly cares about what I thought was a huge problem. Sonder is the word of the day and it means; the profound and sudden realization that every random passerby is living a life as vivid, complex, and detailed as your own.
As some of you may know I’m a day trader and content creator which means I have to come into the market with patience and discipline daily.
At the time of writing this I haven’t mastered the skill of trading yet, I still get emotional, I still revenge trade, and I still let my PnL dictate my emotions. I’m slowly improving and trying to get there but today I took a loss and I usually don’t let losses affect my mood too much but today was different.
Recently, I’ve been doing so well with not over-trading or forcing any trades and I’ve seen much progress within my trading. The loss I took today was a trade I took out of FOMO and it didn't follow my strategy or anything.
After doing so well I was back at square one, not even within trading I didn’t lose much money but mentally I reset. The rest of the day my head was filled with negative thoughts and even contemplating if I should keep going because of how often I do this.
As the day progressed I went to the gym and a couple of stores. The more people I saw the more I got away from my thoughts and the more I felt that It wasn’t such a big deal as I was making it and the more “sonder” kept sticking out to me.
Now at the end of the day, I realize the world is bigger than the negativity in my head. One bad trade doesn’t define me. Instead of giving up on my dream, I’m choosing to keep going even though it’s hard and that’s what's going to separate me from those who don't succeed.
To sum up what I’m trying to say is that don’t let your negative thoughts stop you from getting to where you want to be or doing what you want to do. Failing is a part of every journey, you must learn from it and move forward. Don’t stay stuck in one place filled with negativity after one failure.